Importance of Self-Esteem

Attack on Self-Esteem

Sometimes it’s hard to remain positive & full of love when so much negativity is going on in your life. As we get older we begin to realize how all the things we thought bring us happiness are the same things that bring us sadness. Relationships fail, you lose a job, drop out of school, and start asking yourself questions you don’t have the answers to quite yet. A lot of us fall into sudden depression and anxiety after these types of situations. You also begin to avoid building your self-esteem which eventually affects your life a lot more than you think. It’s like staring up from the bottom of a deep dark hole and no way out in sight. Once your self-esteem is under attack you definitely aren’t the same person you were before. This is the beginning of losing yourself and lacking love for who you are. 

“Take care how you speak to yourself because you are listening..”

Affects of Low Self-Esteem

A low self-esteem can damage the authenticity of our lives in a variety of ways. We grow negativity and negatively everyday that we are under war with ourselves. Negative feelings and thoughts are dramatically taking over. We have relationship issues constantly. Whether it be family, friends, significant others and even co-workers, everyone is affected because of how you feel about yourself. Poor judgemental abilities and giving up easily regarding things that you were once so passionate about. Lack of self care is a BIG ONE. We tend to lose ourselves so much that we don’t even want to get out of bed. You may miss showering and meals throughout the day. Most of us turn to abusing drugs and alcohol to cope with the pain we’re experiencing. We become isolated within ourselves and rather not reach out for help just to simply avoid being judged or belittled for feeling the way we feel. If you noticed I started to use “we” instead of “you” because I am someone who struggled with self-esteem and I understand how hard it is to get yourself back to your healthy self. Although it may seem like it’s easier said than done, trust me it can be done and you’ve already started to process by trying to identify what you’ve experienced.

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love & affection.”
– Buddha

Rebuilding Self-Esteem

Regardless of what you are going through at the moment I want you to start working toward rebuilding your self-esteem. Start talking and thinking positively of yourself. Even if you’ve had the worst day of your life try to see at least one positive thing in that day and focus on how it made you feel. Stop beating yourself up about life. Whatever you’re working hard for it’s going to come to you as long as you continue to push for it. It doesn’t matter how long it takes as long as you are pressing to make it happen, it will happen! Leave the past in the past, learn to forgive others and forgive yourself. This is truthfully easier said than done but I promise if you practice a bit everyday it’ll become natural to you. A big one for me is learning not to worry or be fearful of the future. If you have no idea what’s coming ahead why should you live in fear of it before it even comes. It’s like walking down a dark hallway with a small candle. The candle is only giving you so much light at such a distance but the rest of the way is still dark and unclear. You don’t know what’s there but you do know that if you keep going eventually you will be able to see up ahead more clearly. So why be afraid of the unknown? Be courageous and confident in yourself moving forward. These are all the things I’ve practiced over the last few years in rebuilding my self-esteem. I’m not one hundred percent but I’m definitely far from what I used to be. I still relapse sometimes but I have reminders in place to redirect me to who I am and who I’m becoming. Building self-esteem and keeping yourself happy is the first step to regaining self love. The journey is amazing and you won’t lose anything during this experience. You’ll only gain a better understanding of you and who you are truly meant to be.

I truly hope this article helped many of you facing these struggles today. I hope this article brings you peace and understanding going forward. Positivity is key to self-esteem and self-esteem is key to self love.. 

Be peaceful. Be at peace. -Sanaa Ali

Welcoming Epiphanyish

Not many people understand the meaning of epiphany. The word itself has several definitions depending on it’s usage. Personally, I believe it is based on your own understanding and how you apply it to yourself and your life. We will dive into that perspective later on but first I want to inform you on the different meanings and origin of the word.

Origin and History

Epiphany originated around 1275-1325 from the Greek term ‘epiphaneia’ meaning “appearance” or “manifestation”. It is commonly used in reference to the manifestation of Jesus Christ to the Gentiles, known as a Christian holiday. This holiday is celebrated on January 6th and also known as the Baptism of Jesus, Three Kings Day, and Little Christmas. Like Easter and Christmas, it is one of the oldest and jubilant days of the Christian church. Wow! Did you know this? I sure didn’t. While the term has a spiritual meaning, it also has a very popular meaning that I am more familiar with.


A sudden flash of understanding or insight into the reality or essential meaning of something, usually initiated by a simple, homely, or commonplace occurrence or experience. It is also known as an appearance or manifestation usually of a deity (god, goddess). Compliments of a few dictionaries for these somewhat understanding definitions. Now that we know the meanings of epiphany let’s discuss what you and I may believe it means and develop our own understanding.

Personal Understanding

I like to think of epiphany as “a glimpse, or sudden enlightenment of reality that prepares you for upcoming self transformation”. We all have moments where we may not fully understand why certain things happen to us or happen around us. Most of the time we blame these things on childhood trauma, young adult experiences, and lack of mental and physical support. We begin to feel that life just isn’t going good for us and probably never will which is a huge mistake. As humans we are prone to mistakes and making wrong turns in life. No matter how many times we try to avoid them they just continue happening and that wrong turn eventually turns in a long dark road. If you’re a deep thinker like myself you tend to think about everything bad when negative things happen. Sometimes those negative things are the genesis of your epiphany. The negative experiences seem to strike those deep and spur of the moment thoughts that could benefit you positively if thoroughly examined and initiated the correct way. A lot of the time we ignore our epiphanies. We do this by blocking it with negativity. Instead of thinking of them negatively try to look at these experiences with a positive mindset. When you’re being positive the good things start happening. What I mean by “being positive” is not allowing any negativity inside your mind no matter how it is presented to you. When you allow negativity into you it is then distributed from you. If it is distributed from you it will be given back to you. This is an epiphany I’ve experienced more than once. I’m sure you have before too. Everything we do while we are here on Earth starts as a thought first. “Our thoughts determine our lives..” said the great Elder Thaddeus. I believe this with all of my heart. The second you think and move in positivity is the very moment you experience this amazing feeling of having a self healing epiphany.

Our thoughts determine our lives. — Elder Thaddeus